ITS JUST SEX

"You smell so good and look so good...you even have a car?? no way! you bought me drinks ....you know what? lets get out of here and do what  we have wanted to do the whole night....let me give you my body and you give me yours.....don't talk about how many girls/men you have been with...this is our moment...don't talk about how you have never taken that blood test..I will take your word for it that you are okay...do not ruin the moment...lets live in the now..after all its JUST SEX!"

"Everyone is doing it......how lame are you? you haven't done it...you are just too weird....it only means no one finds you attractive..I mean why else haven't you tried it?....its JUST SEX!"

"No way! you have to know what you are getting yourself into...its like buying a car without getting a test drive.....you have to see his 'merchandise' ...what if you don't like the size?? c'mon do not go in blindly...after all its JUST SEX!"

"We are definitely meant to be...we have been together since forever....we are definitely getting married...you love me..I love you..we are engaged...I cannot imagine anything coming between us....why not? this will only bring us closer...and we want to be closer... it will make us exclusive....its JUST SEX!"

"Am 18! YOLO!...finally legal age....I can drink booze...I can finally be away from my parents and do what I want...I can finally lose my virginity..what is the big deal....its JUST SEX!"

"We are so in love.....I mean I can talk to you all night...I cannot stop thinking about you...all my friends know you...my family too...this definitely something serious....lets do it...its  JUST SEX!"

"We are here together.you could be anywhere else but you decided to be here with me...you look hot am hot too....I have protection....why not?...its JUST SEX!"

"My biological clock is ticking...I cannot find a man at my age who will marry me....my family is always pressuring me to get a kid....I mean I can raise one on my own....all I need to do is get a 'sperm donor'...after all its JUST SEX!"

NO!

1 Cor 6:16: Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."

Gen 2:24: That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Its not just sex.....its more than sex...it is you joining your soul to another person's ..it goes beyond the physical.....its not two sexual organs coming together its two souls joining to be one.....

NO!

1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Its not just sex...you cannot have it with anyone that you please..sex was preserved for married couples...not dating couples...not friends with benefits relationships...not engaged couples...BUT married couples....

We live in a generation where sex is taken so casual....its like having tea....this is the lie that the enemy has given to us..that its JUST sex....when God created it to be shared between man and wife so that they would become one....but we have believed in the lie that we cannot control ourselves..that if God created it then He wants us to act on it...yes He does but in the right context....

Lets stop making excuses when we know that GOD is the SAME yesterday, today and forever..what He said will remain...no matter what excuse we come up with....God expects us to live in purity...to honor Him while we honor our bodies..because its the only sin that causes us to sin against our bodies...Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit?

The great thing is that God gives us His grace and no matter how much we have messed up because we have believed the lie that .."its just sex" He offers us redemption.....He convicts us of our sin and leads us to repentance....He makes ALL things new...so do not get caught up on...'I messed up'.....accept His grace and let Him put the truth in you......

Prayer:

Dear God,

I have believed so much in the lie that its just sex when all along you call for me to honor you as I honor my body. Today, I ask you Lord to forgive me for giving my body to sexual sin and believing the lie, help me to walk in purity, in my thoughts, words and actions. Help me Lord to abstain from sex until marriage because I cannot do it without you and teach me how to honor you. I pray this in Jesus name.

Amen

DEAR 18 YEAR OLD ME...

Dear 18 year old me,

I always think about what I will write then the minute I sit down to do it...the words seem to disappear but here it goes.....

You do not have to walk away from Christ to have 'fun', you don't have to follow the crowd and want the life that others live because they make it look like you are missing out...you see...Christ came so that you  may have life and have it in abundance...meaning all the fun is in Him..there is nothing you are missing out on.....for what you pursue is worldly pleasure which will leave you heartbroken and desperate..while what Christ offers is an eternity of peace, joy and everything good you can think of or imagine..actually above and beyond that.....

You will one day meet a man whose patience will remind you of Jacob...a man whose wisdom will remind you of Solomon...a man whose love will remind you of Christ....so you don't have to settle with that boy just because everyone around you has a boyfriend....you don't have to settle with that boy just because you think he has 'swag'.... you don't have to! Because what Christ has for you is exactly what you need to fulfill your purpose on earth...you two will honor Christ in the relationship.....So don't settle...don't pursue relationships more than you pursue your relationship with Christ.....sit at His feet and at the right time..He will bring you two together....

You don't have to be like everyone else because Christ created you to be just YOU...and He made you with that personality...with your looks...with everything that you are because that is EXACTLY how He wanted you and everything that you are is EXACTLY what you need to do HIS will on this earth...so do not try to be like all the other girls...be exactly who God made you to be... discover yourself.....build your strengths..tap into your talent....work on your weaknesses...love yourself just the way you are because you are beautiful, smart, lovely, funny,.....no matter what anyone says...never forget that.....

Honor your Mother...because your blessings lie with her....she has so much wisdom that you can tap in even though you feel like she doesn't want you to have fun.....she only wants the very best for you...I can assure you no one else in this world will give you that unconditional love that she shows you.....she doesn't want you to learn from YOUR mistakes..she is only protecting from the cruel world that you will come to know one day....spend more time with her....listen to her and honor her because in this way you are assured of long life and you will avoid making so many mistakes....

Invest in friendships that build you and not the ones that pull you away from Christ...let it be that the only peer pressure you will experience from the friends you have be that to live for Christ.....make friends with people who pray with you and for you....make friends with people who correct you when you are wrong.....walk away from friendships that lead you astray...walk away from friends who only get you into trouble...actually FLEE!....you will look back one day and thank God for making that decision.....

Lastly, enjoy your youth but remember God will judge you for everything you will do....do not listen to the poems and 'smart' quotes that tell you to make mistakes when you are young...that tell you that you don't need to commit to anything because you are still young....commit to your dreams...have goals in your studies....start planning where you would want to see yourself in 5 years....and do things purposely to work towards those goals....let no one lie to you that it is too early to start....start saving because this is one thing that will be good for you in the future...cultivate this habit early...do not try to compete with the 'rich' kids....live your life...love it...enjoy it and most of all let no one dismiss you because you are too young when you share Christ....let Him be the center of your world....




Love,
25 year old you