CHRISTIAN MEN ARE THE WORST!

"Christian men are the worst!"....is a statement I have heard so many times from ladies who have dated these men....

I always interrogate further to find out why they came up with that conclusion and all the answers I get can be summed up into one....'they are pretenders'.....

So is this true?...Lets find out.....

Ladies, a man will tell you he is saved/ he loves Jesus...but I advice that you do not take him at his word, so I will give you 5 key things you should consider as RED FLAGS when you see them in a man who claims to be saved  and run!


1. He is trying to sleep with you

I put this as number one because it is one of the common answers I have heard from ladies. So you meet this good looking guy in church/you serve in the same ministry/ he told you he is saved and you hit it off then when you tell him that you want to wait till marriage he says he has a problem with that and he cannot wait that long or he is always trying to get you two to 'chill' at his place to have some 'alone' time with you....RUN!

Why? A man who is truly in love with Jesus values purity, it will not be an issue for him to wait till marriage, he will not try to make you stumble. He will protect your purity because he knows that this is what God requires of him. So if he is truly saved like he says he is he will not try to sleep with you.....


2. His type of entertainment

I have met several men who have claimed to be saved but when you listen to the type of music they listen to or the movies they watch something just never adds up. What do I mean? If the man listens to music that demeans women or music that does not reflect his Christianity, that is a red flag! Why?

Ever heard of garbage in garbage out? if he has no problem listening to music that demeans women etc then why do you think his mind or actions will be any different? Or the movies he watches, they tell a lot about where his heart is.If his heart is in Christ, honey, there are things he will not tolerate.

Even yourself, if you are saved you know there is some music/movies you will not entertain so why else would he if he if truly saved?  so RUN!

3. He over-uses 'christian lingo'

You know the type of brothers who are always like...'hey sister mary'...or they ask you out on a date and all they are quoting is scripture....do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with scripture and am not saying scriptures should not be mentioned when out on a date but try and get to know the other person through a normal conversation...

So why is this a problem? Allow me to use this example; you see how men who try to be women behave? They always exaggerate how women behave..why? Because they are working extra hard to hide the fact that they physically look and sound like men...so it is all a distraction to prevent you from seeing them for who they are... exactly the same thing when you meet a brother who goes way overboard with 'christian lingo' RUN! He is hiding behind it....


4. The friends he keeps

There are these group of men who you will always hear say that.....'my friends are the ones who make me to go out clubbing or drinking'....they will always use this as an excuse when you ask them why they say they are saved yet go out clubbing.....truth is, that is the true him and he pretends when around you....so what do you do? RUN!

A godly man surrounds himself with men who will hold him accountable, men who he shares the same faith with and who he looks up to....show me your friends and I will show you who you are....(ring a bell?)

5. He says he is saved but does not go to church

The brothers who say that they love God but they do not go to church because they believe that salvation is a personal thing or because they do not trust pastors...yaaaaawn!

Christians are encouraged to always have the habit of meeting and even so Christians are called the church of Christ for a reason, because it is a group of people who come together to fellowship with each other, keep each other accountable and do God's work.
A true believer is a member of a church, yes...they are....
So RUN!

2 Corinthians 11:14: and no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light


So many women are falling into the hands of such men and end up hurt and broken and we start claiming that 'its better the devil you know than the angel you don;t know".... truth is you just fell for someone who masqueraded as someone he is not...because you missed the red flags....

So, dear ladies do not be deceived that Christian men are the worst, they are the best! A man who is truly under the submission of Christ will understand how to love you like Christ commanded and when you submit to him you will be submitting to Christ. (PS. He will NOT be perfect)
Truth is, men will claim that they are saved because that is the kind of guy you want so that they can get you. Be alert! Find out for yourself if what he says is true....

BURSTING SEX MYTHS

Let's get to it shall we?

Myth 1: God does NOT want us to have sex

When the church tells people to wait until marriage to have sex, many people conclude that God is against us having sex...

Let me take you back to when God created man and woman and placed them in the garden of Eden and told them to fill the earth...we all know where babies come from..right?( to be clear they are not bought from the supermarket, they are as a result of a man and woman having sex) so who created this good thing called sex? you guessed right...God!

So does He want us to have sex? YES!! ...hold up before you go celebrating....He does but in the context of marriage and even that, He calls us to be faithful to our spouse.....

Sex is encouraged in the context of marriage in the bible:

1 Corinthians 7:3-5: The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Truth: God wants us to have sex in marriage and remain faithful to our spouse.

Myth 2:. Its JUST sex

This is a phrase that many of us use so that we remove the seriousness of sex and make it casual. We reduce it to something like shaking hands. So why is this a myth??

I am reminded of the story of Jacob, how he worked for 7 years to get Rachael and instead he was given Leah and he laid with her. Now because he laid with her it meant that they were now one/married and he had to stay with her and work for 7 more years to get the woman he wanted.

1 Corinthians 6:16: Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."

So sex  is not just sex, it is something that binds two souls together, it makes you one with the other person. It goes beyond the physical, so the more people you have sex with the more souls your soul is tied to......ever wonder why you will never forget the sexual encounters you have had? or how you seem to never get over that ex? or how you keep going back to have sex with that person even after breaking up? It is NOT because you love them, its because your soul is tied to them and until you break those soul ties through prayer and naming each of them, you will always long to go back...(story for another day)

Truth: It is NOT JUST sex, it is the uniting of two souls

Myth 3: Sexual compatibility is priority when looking for a spouse

 I have never understood what people mean by sexual compatibility, to me if one is a male and the other female....that is compatibility.....anyway I bet what we mean when we say that is....you have to find out if the person you are dating/ considering to date can satisfy you sexually before you settle for them.....

Why is this a myth? The minute you get to have sex with someone before marriage, this becomes your foundation meaning...you will never be able to connect with this person way beyond the physical...because you are already 'blinded' by the 'great' sex you are having so you will never get to see the other person for who they are....so what happens if you two get married? and the amount of sex you two have reduces? Your interest diminishes too because whatever kept you together is no longer there and everyone starts looking for satisfaction outside the marriage.....

Truth: Sex is not a testing kit for getting the right spouse.

Myth 4: Safe sex is using protection

Statistics show that people are more afraid of getting pregnant than getting STDs.....and just to add to this is.....we are afraid of pregnancy and STDs more than we are afraid of disobeying God.......

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 :Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

It is the ONLY sin that you do not only sin against God but your own body (pause for a moment and think about this) like it has double consequences.....

Truth: Safe sex is ONLY in marriage with your spouse.

Myth 5: God gave me sexual urges so I must act on them when I want to

If I had a dollar for every time I have heard people say this....and even myself in the past I would be...,mmmmh I would probably be writing this from my own private jet...

Its true that God has given us the sexual urges, BUT He calls for the Unmarried to be self-controlled and wait for the right time and the married to have self control and  only have sex with their spouse.

To the married couples: 

Hebrews 13:4: Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

To everyone:

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5:For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God

Myth 6: Masturbation is a lesser evil than fornication(sex before marriage), adultery and Homosexuality

I have come across a lot of movies, articles and TV shows that encourage people to masturbate especially the men, that it will prevent prostrate cancer and the likes.....and the movies that promote that is a normal thing in such that in one movie I saw a parent walk in and found the son masturbating and actually said it is okay and gave him advice on doing it better...Okay, I did not continue watching the movie after that...

If it such an OK thing to do why do people shy from talking about it...why is it always fueled by pornography? why is it always a struggle for anyone involved to get out of it?

Anything that is from the devil always enslaves us....and that is why we are told that the TRUTH(Jesus) will set us free......

Truth: Masturbation is sexual sin

There are so many more, kindly share on the comments......

Truth is, God is calling for a generation of young people to rise up who will walk in purity and stand for it no matter what the media will promote and even when ridiculed.

Truth is when God tells us to wait until marriage to have sex and to be faithful to our spouses is NOT because He wants to limit our pleasure but to protect our destiny:

Examples:

Esther remaining a virgin ensured that she was among the virgins picked as potential queens and she became queen and God used her to save her people...

When Joseph fled from Portiphar's  wife and refusing to have sex with her, made Him become the governor and also God used Him to save His people...if He slept with her, he would definitely not have earned favor with the God and ending up in prison because Potiphar's wife was angry that he refused to sleep with her turned out to be exactly what was needed for him to become governor.....

Samson, because of lacking self control and becoming unequally yoked with a woman who he was not meant to be with, lost his strength and his purpose which was to rule over the people who enslaved him was not accomplished...even though God still used Him...

So be careful and alert that you do not fulfill your destiny because you were unable to control your sexual urges.....and truth is:

1 Corinthians 10:13:No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.