A friend of mine had told me about a blog called PEN STROKES and the way she described it I just had to look at it. So,I finally got the blogger (Ernest Wamboye) to write an article for my men readers since I had a guy ask me if my blog is for ladies only after I had posted an article for the ladies. So here is the post by this great man of God I still cannot believe he is just 24 and has been married for a year now to a beautiful woman of God. I believe he has been given wisdom beyond his age....
When I faced severe
sexual temptation and struggles in campus, it was hard to talk about it. There was
the fear of being judged- and there was the fear of embarrassment. Guys, you
feel me on this, right? Many guys, therefore, prefer to lock themselves up and
hope that the problem will go away. However, it doesn’t. The first step to
getting out of the rut is confession. We need to talk about it. I pray that you
will be brave enough to admit your fears and weaknesses before other men. As
believers, there is a lot that God states about our sexuality. He’s shouting
from the rooftops. The question is: are we listening? Hopefully these points
will help you put some things into practice as you look for mature godly men to
walk out of addictions like pornography and masturbation. It eats on the inside
and it must be amputated.
1. Usain Bolt
should be your role model
Dude, run! When
you feel your blood rushing in all the wrong places and the temptress is upon
you, flee. I have been locked in a room before with a good-looking prostitute
who wanted to have some fun. She had sneaked into our room and convinced my pal
to go out and find her missing shoes. I was left in the room with her and the
door was locked. She openly seduced me and I was losing my grip. I kept
resisting until my pal came back. Had he come a minute later, I wouldn’t be
sharing this story. However, I remembered God’s clear call to run, like Joseph.
Genesis 39:12-13
She caught him by his cloak and said,
"Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out
of the house. When she saw that he had left his cloak in her hand and had run
out of the house
Even if she
sings in the choir and goes to church four times a week, RUN! Wisdom abounds
but few men grasp it.
2. The best defence is a no-fence
Are you still negotiating
with death? You want to know how close to the edge of the cliff can you stand
without falling. That’s why you ask how far is too far. You are seated on the
fence. Where there is smoke there is fire. Make your stand absolute; God’s is.
Kissing is foreplay guys. It isn’t activity to pass time. Take time and read
books concerning your sexuality. You will realize that your body responds very
differently from what the movies tell you. Even the scientists have facts on
this one, but God beat them to it.
Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint
of sexual immorality.
3. “Appreciating
beauty” is the path to pornography and masturbation
Many Christian
men use this terrible excuse a lot. A girl in a short skirt walks by and all
the heads turn. The glances linger and the excuse is that God’s work of beauty
must be appreciated. If you give excuses with lust, you will find yourself in a
slow fade to pornography and masturbation. It starts with the girl on the
street and continues to the girl on the screen.
Job 31:1 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to
look lustfully at a girl.
4. The
Standards are high!
95% of men face
sexual temptation frequently; the remaining 5% are lying. The standards by God
are high, guys. Listen to what Jesus said.
Matthew 5:27-28 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I
tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed
adultery with her in his heart.
None of us is
righteous when it comes to sexual sin. We need to adopt humility in full view
that our sins have separated us from God.
5. There is hope.
Christ Jesus
took the punishment for our sins. Does that mean we have a leeway to sin? Absolutely
not! The gravity of his sacrifice for you should be pondered on frequently. It
will humble you out of your self-righteousness and it will affirm you out of
your weakness. Christ died so that we should live. His Grace is not only for
pardon but also for empowerment not to fall. I married my wife a year ago. We
were both virgins and we waited for the marriage bed. It is possible even in
the 21st century because as long as you have committed to Christ,
the victory is won; you just need to live it out. Find the things that destroy
your hope. Find the TV series, the magazines, the company and all the stuff
that causes you to struggle. Destroy them and embrace life! The last TV series
I watched was in 2010. Why? They caused me to stumble. Embrace the hope and set
the pace for the women you date, are engaged to and even are married to.
Marriage doesn’t mean the struggle of lust will go away guys. Protect your
woman’s virtue-even from yourself. Don’t kill the hope availed to you on that
cross. Purity will never be a fashion so don’t wait for the masses. Live
humbly, live righteously. We have all we need for Godliness.
2 Peter 1:3 His divine power has given us everything we
need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his
own glory and goodness
Grace and Love,
Ernest
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ReplyDeleteEncouraging. Thanks for sharing.
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