5 THINGS I WISH EVERY WOMAN WOULD KNOW

1. Christ should be your first love

The reason why as women we usually end up giving our hearts to the wrong man is because we don't understand what real love looks like so we tend to fall for the counterfeit love offered with the first man who whispers in our ears sweet words.
If only we would take time and fall in love with Christ and have a real relationship with Him first before letting any man have our hearts then we will start looking at ourselves through God's eyes where we are beautiful, loved, talented, smart.....and maybe then we would truly understand our worth and raise our standards and in turn only a man who has asked Christ about you will be able to win your heart.

Revelation 2:4-5 But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lamp stand from its place, unless you repent. 

May we never forget that there is already a man who loves us so much that He thinks we are to die for, may we never forget there is already a man who pursues us relentlessly to just see us have life in abundance, may we never forget that there is a man who already says that we are beautifully and wonderfully made....may we never forget that Christ loved us even before we loved Him.
  
2. True love waits
This sentence has been used so many times and nowdays it is only applicable when you are talking to teenagers about love because no grown woman believes this.
Ladies you need to understand that even if sex is a need to men they can still wait if they truly love you. The minute a man pushes you to have sex with him before marriage it should be a red flag and you need to run because that man is not in love with you. Yes, he whispers to you during sex that he loves you...no hunnie he is in love with the sex. Yes, he has given you time when you are dating...maybe you made him wait for three months or a month before you gave it up to him but fact remains is that he is NOT your husband why do you think he has the right to have your body?

Ephesians 5: 27: that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.

Do you know that the man should present you without spot or wrinkle, holy and blameless at the altar?

Ladies, its time you understand that a man who truly loves you  will wait for you.

3. Tearing down other women is just tacky!
News flash: There will always be another woman who is prettier, more curvy, taller, slimmer, has a better job, a better car, a better dress, a better looking man....you name it....so deal with it!
What benefits us women to tear down other women because we view them as competition while the men are busy striking deals with each other, mentoring  younger men and helping each other up the ladder?
I believe women are unique and we are able to achieve so much more than we can imagine if only we helped each other instead of tearing down each other.

 Proverbs 31:26 :She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue

The woman described in proverbs 31 speaks with wisdom, meaning she thinks before she talks, she does not slander, she does not gossip. She speaks in kindness meaning she does not insult others. 
Its time women realize that being an exceptional woman means building other women because it shows that you are confident in your own skin and you do not need to put another woman down to feel better about yourself.

4. Modesty is still a virtue
I once read this statement made by a man "If your goal as a woman is to be sexy, then you will only attract men whose primary goal is to have sex".
We have come to believe that less is better when it comes with the way we dress, the more heads we turn the better we look. without realizing that we are turning heads for the wrong reasons.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20: Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 :Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

1 Peter 3:3-4: Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 

May we strive to be beautiful inside and out, may we love ourselves in such a way we do not feel the need of proving it to the world. May we use wisdom in  choosing what to wear.

5.Godly man Vs "Saved" Man

I have heard so many women say "saved" men are the worst! because they are pretenders.When i further investigate why they say so...I always end up with giving this difference...

A "saved" man will go to church every sunday, quote scripture but still try to get you in bed. A godly man will go to church, quote scripture and protect your purity.

A "saved" guy would have no problem trying to sleep with you before marriage.He wants the relationship between just you two. He wants little if any accountability  and little or no interaction with family members. Forget about him agreeing to meet your pastor or even your parents before he takes you out. He is afraid of commitment and meeting those people will scare him off. He doesn't want everyone's opinion and wants everyone in his "business." Marriage is not the goal, he just wants to date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments.
During courtship, the man after God's heart works at keeping you both pure because he honors you and God. He will talk to your parents, pastor, or mentor in  life when he is interested in pursuing you. He will be invested in getting you to grow in the Lord and will initiate prayer and lead bible study. He seeks the accountability and wisdom of their parents,other mentors, and Christians. He wants to truly get to know you in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding your view. His goal is to seek to determine if it is God’s will for him to marry you.

Do not take the man at his word....the proof is in the fruits he produces. Observe his life, is he seeking God more than you....is his life directed by God?

Eventually ladies a man who is not led by God will only lead you to himself. 

So do not confuse the two..there are godly men out there who are truly after God's own heart let not the counterfeits fool you.